Normal criticism, or harassment? How to tell the difference

In My Corner · Learn — 6 min read · Updated July 2026

One of the cruellest tricks of a bad workplace is that it makes you doubt your own read. Was that harsh feedback just… feedback? Am I being too sensitive? Let's be honest in both directions, because both mistakes cost you: calling ordinary management "harassment" burns your credibility, and calling real harassment "just feedback" keeps you trapped.

What normal (even uncomfortable) management looks like

It's about the work, not about you as a person. "This report missed the deadline and had three errors" is about output. "You're useless and everyone knows it" is about you.
It's consistent and fair. The same standard applies to your colleagues, not a special harsher one built for you.
It comes with a route forward. Real feedback tells you what "better" looks like. Criticism designed to diminish just leaves you smaller.
Reasonable management is expressly allowed. Setting expectations, correcting work, even discipline — done reasonably — isn't harassment, and the law recognises that.

What tips it into something worse

It's a course of vexatious conduct — personal, repeated, and known or reasonably known to be unwelcome (the OHSA harassment test).
It's targeted at a protected ground. If the hostility tracks your race, sex, disability, age or religion, it can be discrimination or human-rights harassment, not just a bad manager.
The goalposts keep moving. Nothing is ever good enough because being good enough was never the point.
It follows you speaking up. Criticism that appears right after a complaint can be a reprisal.

The honest test, and what to do

Ask: if a fair colleague saw the full pattern, dated and in context, would they call this reasonable management or something else? Then let evidence, not 3am doubt, answer. Keep a private, dated log for a few weeks. If it fills with personal, targeted, or protected-ground conduct, you're not being too sensitive — and you have routes (your employer's harassment policy; the human-rights tribunal if it's protected-ground). If it turns out to be clumsy-but-fair management, you get your peace back, which is worth a lot too.

If any of this has you at the edge — not sleeping, dreading every morning, or worse — please put this article down and talk to a human first: the 9-8-8 Suicide Crisis Helpline — call or text 988 (free, confidential, 24/7 across Canada) — or Talk Suicide Canada 1-833-456-4566. In an emergency, call 911. The job problem can wait an hour; you matter more.

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This article is general information, not legal advice. In Canada, which law applies depends on your province (most workers are provincially regulated; federal workers fall under the Canada Labour Code), and there is no single anti-bullying statute. For decisions that matter, check your provincial Ministry of Labour / OHS regulator, your human-rights tribunal, or an employment lawyer.